Mar 17

So why this blog on Parenting?

That’s a good question.  With all the thousands and thousands of blogs on the Internet today, why is another blog ond&sf1 Parenting going to be helpful?  Aren’t we just another voice in the forests of websites?

Well, I can think of a few reasons to start with:

  1. Daniel and I have had over 25 years of counselling and mentoring experiences in this area. We could tell you stories that would make your hair curl …. and stories that would bring tears of laughter. So we are sure you find something of value on this blog.
  2. We have collected a warehouse full of resources that we would like to share with you. We have personal evaluation worksheets and in-depth series on many of the topics that we need to understand in our world today.
  3. We have been involved in writing blogs for over 5 years. That takes commitment and perseverance. When things get busy, we still need to ‘feed the blogs’.  .  One blog you might find helpful on ‘What your Dad didn’t teach you about the Opposite Sex’ is on www.conflictsolutions.mentorsnotebook.com

Susanne: “We find ourselves in a time in history when family structures are changing.  The absence of mature ‘father figures’ is especially challenged.  As a result of missing Dads, even male culture and thinking is strange and even foreign to our female world.  Then, males have trouble understanding the way we females think.

“So what do we, as girls and women learn about how males think?  From our distant,  absent fathers or thick skinned brothers….? How will society cope with absent males, both emotionally and physically?”

  1. We have many topics of blogs and new websites coming up. So this is one place to read about all kinds of important info, news, bargains and helpful guides to better living. Here is another one you might want to check out:  www.marriage4today.mentorsnotebook.com
  2. Our society is changing with every new generation ….but some things need to be passed on to the next generation. We can help do that. We need as much shared community and communication as possible to help those struggling with life.  Each one of us can make a difference!  We want your input to do this too.
  3. Life isn’t easy and many dreams are shattered along the road to maturity and understanding. Just knowing others have gone through the struggles, the shattered dreams and come up strong can help keep others inspired. We want to do that in a weary, busy-busy world.
  4. We have some free resources as well as resources we have specially designed for each category we share. So we invite you to help yourself where possible.
  5. We passionately believe in good parenting! We are shaping the future of our country with these little treasures that have been put into our care. They deserve the best we can give then ….but sometimes that means parents need help.  I Susanne, have over 10 years of training and teaching in the areas of Child Development and Health Ed.  I want to share this with you!

Come back often and catch the new info.  Join our subscription list to receive notices of the next new post. You can email us with comments, suggestions for posts or to say hello on susanne[at]mentorsnotebook.com

Susanne Fengler, Blog Author

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Jun 13

1/1 The Issue of Problem Ownership

We start a new series on helping Parents learn to be Effective in their parenting skills. Here is the first of SIX very8496265697_8681e1a702 important topics for all parents: The Issue of Problem Ownership
One of the biggest issues parents face is that of “Problem ownership” – who is being bothered by problem, issues or behaviour? Is it causing you, the parent, a problem because it is unacceptable behaviour….? or is the ‘problem’ coming into the areas where only the child can resolve the ‘problem’.

Whose problem is this? Is the child’s problem to solve? ….or the parent’s ……or in an area where there is no clear responsible for the problem.

10 year old Sally comes home, moaning “I have no friends at school since Janice move away!” Then you see Ben, banging his head with the palm of his hand because his iPod doesn’t work. How do you as the parent, decide what is a problem…and whose problem is it.

Then what do you do when it is the child’s ‘problem’? If the child has a problem, the parent often feels they have the problem too. Rather than take the heavy responsibility to resolve the child’s problem, how much better would it be to help work out the basic difference in the “Problem Ownership”.

1. Who owns the Problem?

13 year old Jack left his gym bag the train on Friday night with his important guitar recital music. He has been working toward this date for 6 months. His important exams are coming up on Saturday. What do you do?

First off, what would most parents do? How could you handle it better? The best aim would be to teach Jack to learn to take responsibility for all his things. How do you do this?

What would most parents do: Rank and rave at Jack for his irresponsibility his stupidity, *&%$#@%&, etc. (Add in your own words that were thrown at you or that you have used.)

2. Remember ‘good, better, best’?

What’s the best outcome for this problem? Instead of dad rushing in with blame, guilt and threats, what would happen if he said “Ya, you have a problem. What are you going to do about it?”

3. Continue to picture the two scenes:

Dad – Yelling, blame, guilt, then finally end up calling the train company and then driving Jack back to the station in silent disgust. What has Jack learned? Probably to hide the problem, avoid dad, run away before they find out, hid in his room, pleased sickness so he can’t so the recital, and so on…but there is a better way.

Dad: “ya, that’s a problem. What are you going to do?”
Jack: “I don’t know…I didn’t mean to leave if behind…it just…”
Dad: “So what do you want to do about it?”
Jack: “Could you go get it Dad?”
Dad: “Ya but how will you do that?”
Jack: “I don’t know…what can I do…?”
Dad: “If I were in this position, I would start by calling the train depot…”
Jack: “Great Dad. Can you do ….”
Dad: “No, but I’ll help you find the number. Then what do you do…?”

Notice Dad kept giving the problem back to Jack! He offered suggestions and said have would help so 13 year old Jack wasn’t left to solve the problem. There was no blame, guild, yelling or name calling – which never does any good anyhow – does it? So….who owns the following examples of problems?

(P=parent,     C=Child,    NP=no one does)

The problem to resolve: P C NP
1. Your daughter’s disapproval of Jack’s new hair style and colour.
2. Sally has forgotten to feed her kitten for three days.
3. Jack asks you to listen to part of his guitar recital.
4. Jack confides in you that he is worried about failing his Maths test.
5. Sally is in the habit to getting up late and missing the bus.
6. Sally has a new friendship group who think it’s so cool to be thin.
7. Your family often debates news issues around the table over dinner with various opinions.
8. Your third child has become afraid of the dark and wants to crawl into your bed at night.

Instead of Dad, or either parent taking over the problem and solving it for the child, why not help the child learn how to problem solve. This teaches ownership of the problem and helps to find solutions to problems. In the long run, Jack will have learned a far better lesson than Dad’s emotional, yelling, blame and withdrawal of love reactions.

Listening to find out why Jack left his gym bag on the train is our next session!

Susanne Fengler, Blog Author
www.parenting4life.mentorsnotebook.com

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Jan 31

Congratulation, You’re a Grandparent!

We start another new series especially for Grandparents!

Welcome to  “Becoming a Grandparent”

Grandparents-to-be in any generation await with great expectation the birth of the newest member of their family. 8573606002_10fa191916You are probably ready to give advice, to share knowledge gained through your own parenting experiences. Much of that is self-learned and is very valuable.
However, there have been may changes in health advice given to pregnant women as they prepare for labour and the birch of their child. Advice has also changed as to young couples about early parenting. In it is important to keep an open mind about the changes that have come about in the last 30 years or so.
As you already, or are about to become, a new grandparent, it could be helpful to have an update of information regarding birth and early parenting.
It may be a little different to how it was when you had your children. However, you should be reassured to know, these changes have been made as a result of ongoing research by medical and nursing professionals.
They are changes that are in the interest of ensuring the optimum health and wellbeing of both parents and their new babies.

Active Labour and birth

Pregnant women with their partners have the opportunities to participate in antenatal classes, read materials and watch videos about childbirth – sometimes just as you had. This helps prepare them for what they’re about to go through. It allows them the options of a natural birth, providing there is no medical complications or health risks to the mother or baby.

Overall, women are now encouraged to walk about remain as upright as possible during the hours of labour and birth. In many instances, a woman will gravitate to a comfortable position. A caring midwife and/or understanding medical practitioner completes the team.

Partners present at the birth
There is an expectation that men today will be with their partners during labour and birth to gibe physical and emotional support. Expectant fathers are expected to attend antenatal classes with their partner. This enables them to share their thoughts and fears with other men in the group and have their questions answered by antenatal educators.
Involvement of this type helps prepare them for their baby’s arrival and their feelings of confidence about being a father. Fathers will often assist in the birth by cutting the cord. In all well situations, the new baby is held by the mother some after the moment of birth, usually a skin to skin contact. Her baby is dried with soft towels and swaddled against her. There is no risk to the baby become cold, as the mother’s body temperature will adapt itself to her baby’s needs, like a thermostat.

Meanwhile, careers – midwife or support persons – should help the new mother to recognize her baby’s hunger signs. Early attaching to the breast and sucking is strongest within the first one to two hours after birth.

Susanne Fengler, Blog Author
www.parenting4life.mentorsnotebook.com

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Jan 18

2/5 How we can help new Mums

 New mothers were asked what the most helpful things were that family and friends could do for them during late 8570833723_8d274ea89bpregnancy and up until the baby was a few weeks old.
Here are some of their suggestions:

* Support with older children to allow Mum to rest.
* Carrying out household tasks.
* Help with shopping.
* Being aware of the physical demands of pregnancy.
* Being supportive of birth decisions, breastfeeding and other decisions.
* Helping prepare for the new baby.
*Sharing helpful hints from good experiences.
* Cooking meals.
* Bringing food when visiting.

During the Hospital stay:

*Helping with household and shopping needs.
* Emotional support and encouragement with breatfeeding.
* Help with numbers of visitors.
* Purchase good required while in hospital.
* Helping out with other children and household work.
* Taking laundry home to wash/iron.
*Having a tidy house when returning from hospital.
* Taking photos.
* Letting friends/family know how I am.

First week or two at home:

* Look after baby so Mum can catch up on sleep, have a time out.
* Bring over casseroles.
* Inviting new Mums and dads to dinner.
* Help prepare meals at new parent’s house.
* Help with shopping, household chores.
* Limit time spent with new Mums.

First 6 to 12 weeks with new Baby:

* Time for Mum to sleep, time out.
*Child-minding for shopping,
* Help with housework, washing/ironing.
* Share the joys of a new baby.
* Being there without being intrusive.
* Prepare an evening meal.

With all the information about childbirth and parenting around, we hope this introduction was helpful. Prepare yourself for the experience. Build the relationship with your offspring and help them prepare for this new adventure too.
Adapted from “Congratulations, You’re a Grandparent”, Johnson’s Baby Guide, Isobel McLean, Childbirth Education Coordinator, Mitcham Private Hospital, 2001

Susanne Fengler, Blog Author
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Dec 30

2/4 Understanding Post Natal Depression

2940170289_bdf028e778_m This is a depressive condition associated with pregnancy and childbirth that needs to be recognized and treated. The incidence of PND is quite high. According to “Congratulations, You’re a Grandparent”, Johnson’s Baby Guide, page 6, as many as one in eight woman will suffer from it to some degree.

There are many excellent publications available to read on PND. Also check our P.A.N.D.A.as a self help group in Victoria tha can be contacted for assistance and support. Other states in Australia have similar associations such as Tresillian Family Care Centers in NSW. These groups are organized in most other states and countries as well.

Women who have suffered PND are susceptible to a recurrence in any future pregnancies. It is important to offer counselling in antenatal periods for these women.  Pregnant couples should be aware of mother and baby support units in their countries where new mothers and their babies can bee admitted and helped in tis situation.

It is important that new parents be given the opportunity to talk about their pregnancy, labour and birth experience. Health professionals should offer their time and expertise to facilitate this. This is called de-briefing. There is evidence to show that this could be an important factor in reducing the incidence of PND. This is especially true if the birth was long, complicated and traumatic.
Maternity hospitals and birth centres can give all couples the opportunity to talk to their birth midwife of their choosing before taking the baby home.

Adapted from “Congratulations, You’re a Grandparent”, Johnson’s Baby Guide, Isobel McLean, Childbirth Education Coordinator, Mitcham Private Hospital, 2001

Susanne Fengler, Blog Author

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Dec 17

2 /3 SIDS – Cot Death Tragedies

dad5 Much research has been undertaken in recent times about Sudden Infant Death Syndrome or SIDS. Research has found three risk factors that influence the number of SIDS cases.
* Being raised with parents who smoke, thus making breathing harder for the baby.
* Having the baby over-heated, with too many blankets, clothing or too warm a room.
* The position of the baby during sleep.

Advice to minimize the risk of SIDS:

1. Keep the baby in a smoke-free environment.
2. Do not over heat the baby.
3. Lay the baby on the back to sleep. Do not lie on the tummy. The baby’s feet need to be positioned at the foot of the bassinet or cot. Do not leave soft toys in the cot with the baby.

Breastfeed is strongly recommended by the SIDS Foundation.

All couples attending antenatal education programs at the hospital or venue of their choice should have the opportunity to discuss this. Also the information is readily available in the community through the nationals SIDS Counsel of Australia.

Keeping Baby in the Family Bed:

There is no indication that having a baby sleep in a bed with its parents increases the risk of SIDS. However, this is not recommended when either parent is a smoker.

Care should be taken to make sure the baby does not slip under the bedding or pillows. Also the danger of falling out of the bed or becoming too hot from too much bedding is important too. Ensure that baby cannot be trapped between the bed and a partner or the wall.

Bed sharing should not take place however, if the mother or father is on prescribed sedatives or have been drinking alcohol. SIDS foundation does not recommend babies sleeping with their parents in a water bed as overheating and too soft conditions can arise.

Many hospitals now offer double bed accommodations so families can stay together; ‘Bedding-in’ is widely accepted.

I trust this has given you some more information on the tragic SID cases. Please check other sources for more facts and preventive care.

Susanne Fengler, Blog Author
www.parenting4life.mentorsnotebook.com

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Dec 07

2/2 Baby-sitting your new Grandchild

Parenting_blankIt is inevitable that, at some point, you will have the pleasure of looking after your new grandchild. This is what many grandparents look forward to. This is especially true when you know you are giving back the responsibility to the parents after a few hours.

These days, many young women return to the work world before their child starts school. This may be either due to choice or for financial reasons.

You, as the grandparent, may feel a little anxious about being asked to baby-sit for an extended periods of time. When you do now think you can cope with this, it is quite a delicate situation to handle. Also many grandparents themselves are still in the paid workforce and are unable to baby-sit.

It can be very helpful to your daughter or daughter-in-law to visit some with her to help choose who will care for the small one when she is at work. It will also give you the chance to see how she handles the baby and what her rountine might be.

Being a grandparent is very special:

There are ofther aspects of parenting you will be involved with. You may wish to speak with the midwife or other stafffamily 2 at your local maternity hospital for further advice, especially if this is your first grandchild. Some hospitals now offer grandparent programs and information sessions.

Maternal and child health nurses are also a wonderful source of information and support.  Being a grandparent is meant to be something special to look forward to. You can be a great support to the new parents and your grandchild.

Adapted from “Congratulations, You’re a Grandparent”, Johnson’s Baby Guide, Isobel McLean, Childbirth Education Coordinator, Mitcham Private Hospital, 2001

Susanne Fengler, Blog Author
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Dec 03

Invisible, Powerful Childhood Emotional Neglect

Recently a reader shared this post to help answer some of the emotional issues with Childhood neglect..

Ever heard anyone say:  gI_109506_africanBamericanBboyBsummerBcamp“I had a fine childhood. I should be feeling and doing better than I am.”
“I should be happier. What is wrong with me?”

“During more than 20 years as a psychologist, I have discovered a powerful and destructive force from people’s childhoods that weighs upon them as adults. It saps their joy, and causes them to feel disconnected and unfulfilled. This childhood force goes completely unnoticed while it does its silent damage to people’s lives. In fact, it’s so invisible that it has flown under the radar of not only the general public, but also the mental health profession.
“I call this force childhood emotional neglect, and have spent the last two years trying to help people become aware of it, talk about it, and heal from it.
Here’s the definition of childhood emotional neglect (CEN): It’s a parent’s failure to respond enough to a child’s emotional needs.  You can see from this definition why CEN is so hard to detect. Since it’s not a parent’s act but a parent’s failure to act, it’s not an event. It’s not something that happens to a child; it’s something that fails to happen for a child. Therefore, it’s not visible, tangible or memorable.  To further complicate things, it is often caring and loving parents who fail their children this way; parents who mean well, but were emotionally neglected by their own parents.

“Here’s one example of how CEN can work:
9-year-old Levi comes home from school feeling upset because he had an argument with his friends. He is feeling a swirl of emotion: hurt that his friends ganged up on him on the playground, embarrassed that he cried in front of them, and mortified that he has to go back to school the next day to face them.
“Levi’s parents love him very much. But on this day, they fail to notice that he is upset. They go about the afternoon, and no one says to Levi, “Hey, is something wrong?” Or, “Did something happen at school today?”
“This may seem like nothing. Indeed, this happens in every household across the world, and generally it does no great harm. But if it happens with enough depth and breadth throughout Levi’s childhood, that his emotions are not noticed or responded to enough by his parents, he will receive a potent message: that the most deeply personal, biological part of who he is, his emotional self, is irrelevant, even unacceptable.
3399373073_9253dfd734“Levi will take this implicit but powerful message to heart. He will feel deeply, personally invalidated, but he will have no awareness of that feeling or of its cause. He will start to automatically push his feelings away, and to treat them as if they are nothing. He will, as an adult, have difficulty feeling his emotions, understanding them, and using them for the things that emotions are meant to do. He may have difficulty connecting with others, making decisions, or making sense of his own and other people’s behaviour. He may feel unworthy or invalid in some indescribable way. He may believe that his own feelings or needs don’t matter.
“CEN can take an infinite number of different forms. Levi’s example is only one. But I have noticed a certain pattern of struggles which CEN folks tend to share. The pattern includes feelings of emptiness, difficulty relying upon other people, self-directed anger and blame, and problems with self-discipline, among others.
“Because the cause of CEN is so subtle and invisible, many CEN people look back upon a “fine childhood” with loving parents, and see no explanation for why they feel this way. This is why they so often blame themselves for their difficulties, and feel a deep sense of being somehow secretly flawed.
“The good news about childhood emotional neglect is that once you become aware of it, it is entirely possible to heal from it. But since CEN is so hard to recognize, it can be quite difficult to see it in your own childhood.”

Thanks Janice Webb, PhD for this article. We see this problem all around us and now, we can know abit about the why and what to do.

For more information contact PsychCenteral – http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/05/16/invisible-powerful-childhood-emotional-neglect/

Susanne Fengler, Blog Author
www.parenting4life.mentorsnotebook.com

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Nov 18

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Nov 03

Are You A Parent In Trouble: Parent Effectiveness Training

3548413851_ecb9e761ed_mAre you looking for a solution to your parenting woes?  If you have defiant children, or if you have out of control children, you should consider parent effectiveness training.  I know you free time is limited, so let’s get right to it.

Once upon a time, your children were very young, and except for crying occasionally, things were going rather smoothly.  Then, you seemingly blinked your eyes a few times, a few years went by, and all of a sudden your sweet innocent kids are not so sweet, and no so innocent.  Let’s take a look at what might have happened, and where we should go from here.

I would just like to preface everything here by saying, much of the content is generalizing.  What is said is true for the large majority of the parents who will read this article.  If something doesn’t apply to you, that’s ok.  Just take what you can use and leave the rest.

When your children were very young, you knew they didn’t understand too much.  However, what you didn’t count on is that they would be a sponge and a mirror, and someday they would repeat back everything they’ve seen.  And not just what they saw you do, but they would also repeat things from television, and anywhere else they could get imput from.

This is important to note because we have to be careful what we say and do in the presence of, and to our children.  On this same note, if you’ve ever yelled or screamed at, punished, humiliated, or diminished your children to teach them something, you’ve probably done something you didn’t want to, while not accomplishing what you set out to do.

When children are under this kind of duress, they won’t learn what you are trying to teach them, because they shut down.  Then, you will get more angry and frustrated with them when they don’t learn the lesson you were teaching, and the cycle will repeat itself.  Parent effectiveness training would be very useful here.

Speaking about cycles that are very detrimental, when you perform any of those negative parenting techniques just mentioned, another very negative thing happens.  For the complete story, visit my blog at positive parenting tips, for an article that will explain everything.

The short version is that when we come down hard on our kids, fear and stress rises.  This causes a biological reaction in them, and they have to act out.  Cortisol goes to their brain, and they become disoriented.  We then yell at them some more and cause this cycle to go round and round.

You may say, what’s wrong with my kid having some fear about doing the wrong thing.  There’s a lot wrong with this 7301792774_01a681fa52thinking because fear causes the problem of excess cortisol.  Also, even though your children are much smaller than we are, they still deserve to be given respect.  Here’s a good rule to follow.  When you’re about to say something to your child, especially if it’s harsh, first pause.  Then ask yourself, would I say this to one of my friends.  Of course the answer will be no, so then, don’t say it to your children.

In closing, I would just like to say that I am a parent, and I understand the difficulties of that job.  There is no tougher job.  Also, if things aren’t going too smoothly in your household, that is evidence that the forms of child discipline that you’ve been using, aren’t working too well.

To get information that will help you focus on the roots of bad behaviour in order to make a deep and lasting change, visit parent effectiveness training.  Also, if you liked this article, you can find more of my articles about parenting issues, at my blog, at parent effectiveness training.

No matter what you decide to do, now that you’re moving in a positive direction, don’t stop until you’ve found what works for you.  Good luck, and God Bless!

For lots of great ideas about how to be a more effective parent, visit Parent Effectiveness Training to get help with your family situation. There you can find lots of positive parenting tips.

Register Here and Receive This FREE Report-“Respect & Cooperation with Children” to get you going in the Right Direction!

Paul Donahue has been a parent for over twenty years, and shares with you many of the positive parenting tips that have worked for him, as well as some things that haven’t. No matter the age of your children, there’s always a chance to turn things around. Don’t put off the chance to start over. Change your life, right now, by checking out these positive parenting tips for u , Today!

If you need any further assistance, or would like to share some of your story with me, please e-mail me at prdgloballlc@gmail.com.

No matter what you try, just remember to be consistent, and persistent, and you will, day by day, reach your goal of gaining control of your household. Now that you have started to do the footwork, don’t stop until you’ve found what works for you. Thanks for taking the time to read my article and profile. God Bless!

Thanks for this Guest post,  Parent Effectiveness Training Articles

Make sure you catch our series on ‘Communicating with Children’, adapted from some of the basic principles of Parent Effectiveness Training’!

Susanne Fengler, Blog Author

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Nov 01

Pregnancy Clothes

If you are pregnant or soon will be, it can sometimes seem like a daunting task trying to remain fashionable and pregnant all at the same time.

These days there are lots of stylish and sexy maternity clothes. Stylish and sexy aren’t words you associated with pregnancy clothes in the past, but this is a new era for maternity wear.Chances are, if you’re a jeans and T-shirt kind of gal, these are the clothes that will make you feel good during pregnancy too. You don’t have to run out and buy high-ticket maternity clothes(during pregnancy ) just because your belly is getting bigger.

The best strategy is to pick out a few pre-pregnancy pieces that you love and wear to death, then find something similar in larger sizes.

Depending on the cut, you may even be able to wear some pre-pregnancy favorites for several months. If you stick with styles and colors you like, you’ll certainly get your money’s worth.

Regardless of your size, style, or budget, there are a few clothing items that all pregnant women can use. Those stretchy black leggings, a white T-shirt, jeans, a long tunic top, a little black dress, an oversize shirt, a short or long skirt, black slacks, and drawstring comfy pants are all versatile pieces that can look classic, classy, or funky, depending on your personal flair. If you favor the flowered frock look, there are plenty of those to choose from as well.

Many new moms wonder when they should start wearing maternity clothes(during pregnancy ) .

You definitely won’t be needing them your first trimester, where you alone are probably the only person that can tell that you are pregnant.As we’ve been telling our young preggy friends, just because they are pregnant does not mean that they should forget about dressing well and being stylish. Or, as Deena would say, fashion does not go out the window just because you’ve got a baby kicking your stomach. We’d like to think that Christian Siriano was thinking the same thing when she designed the maternity dresses above.

Most women start wearing maternity items at about the fourth or fifth month. Now, this varies from woman to woman. Second time moms often start showing earlier than their first time counterparts, and women with multiples start showing even sooner.

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They type of maternity clothes that you need during pregnancy generally change too. Some women are able to make due with a baggy pair of jeans for some time during their early pregnancy. Many find themselves moving into maternity wear before their bellies are quite big enough to fill out the maternity wear.
Even a few years ago it was difficult to find fashionable maternity clothing. Pregnant ladies had only a few options to wear during their impending months. Shapeless, tent like, schoolmarm dresses, their husbands cast off huge shirts or sweats, basically clothes that didn’t allow you to show off your new curves. Pregnant ladies are in the epitome of beauty. You are in the full bloom of motherhood and should relish in your beautiful pregnancy glow. The right clothes can allow you the perfect venue to show off your pregnancy glow and your new beautiful shape.

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